Dating with Confidence: Finding love and connection after 40
In this episode of the Soul Sister Movement podcast, host Noni Banks welcomes Lilli Bewley, a feminine dating coach and #1 trauma informed dating expert. Lilli emphasized the importance of an inside-out approach to dating, focusing on inner healing and self-awareness rather than just external factors. She introduced us to her concept of the four feminine dating archetypes: the Chill Woman, the Fortress Woman, the Goddess Woman, and the Magnetic Woman. Each archetype represents different patterns and challenges in dating, and Lily provided insights into the healing work needed for each type.
Learn how trauma can impact our dating lives and the importance of addressing these deep-seated issues to attract healthy, fulfilling relationships. Lily also highlighted the significance of self-love, setting boundaries, and trusting oneself in the dating process.
For women over 40, Lily's advice is to keep going on their healing journey, be gentle with themselves, and seek support through therapy or coaching. She encouraged listeners to take her Feminine Dating Archetype Quiz at datingarchetype.com to gain insights into their dating patterns and blocks to love.
Time Stamps:
00:00:43 - Personal Journey and Healing
00:01:26 - Achieving External Success but Feeling Unhappy
00:02:07 - Burnout and Relationship Struggles
00:02:28 - Inside-Out Approach to Dating
00:03:00 - Impact of Past Experiences on Dating
00:03:45 - Importance of Inner Healing for Dating Over 40
00:04:06 - Law of Manifestation and Self-Reflection
00:04:27 - Confronting Inner Issues for Healthy Relationships
00:04:48 - Self-Love and Emotional Availability
00:05:09 - Lengthy Process of Inner Healing
00:05:27 - Trauma and Its Impact on Dating
00:05:48 - Vulnerability and Fear in Relationships
00:06:27 - Trauma-Informed Approach in Dating
00:06:47 - Trauma and Dating Patterns
00:07:08 - Feminine Dating Archetypes Introduction
00:08:01 - Root Cause Wounds and Trauma
00:08:21 - Creating a New Relationship with Past Trauma
00:09:17 - Overview of Feminine Dating Archetypes
00:09:28 - Chill Woman Archetype
00:12:08 - Healing Work for Chill Woman
00:12:48 - Fortress Woman Archetype
00:14:03 - Healing Work for Fortress Woman
00:15:05 - Goddess Woman Archetype
00:16:08 - Healing Work for Goddess Woman
00:17:23 - Magnetic Woman Archetype
00:19:01 - Alignment and Trusting Intuition
00:20:05 - Continuous Healing and Fulfillment
00:20:51 - Encouragement for Women Over 40
00:22:08 - Patterns and Healing with Love